Chapter 1: The Essence of Writing

For me, writing has served as a vital source of strength and has significantly enhanced my parenting skills.

I realized I haven’t penned anything for nearly two weeks. What could be the reason? Perhaps I've lost my writing spark, or maybe it's because I feel devoid of fresh insights, especially since I haven't encountered any recent moments of clarity.

In my case, writing isn’t a task I undertake out of obligation; it’s a necessity. Unlike many writers who rely on consistent effort, I draw from inspiration. Writing feels as effortless to me as making a burger at a fast-food joint. However, discovering topics worthy of exploration? That’s a much greater challenge.

My motivation for writing here isn’t tied to a financial incentive; if it were, the meager earnings would be quite embarrassing. I began this journey because, at that moment in my life, writing was my only true companion. It pushed me to be a better version of myself, urging me to care for my well-being, even when I was reluctant to do so. Descartes famously stated, "I think, therefore I am." In my case, I find meaning in the thought, "I write, therefore I matter."

Writing reveals the beauty in others, even in those who may not fit societal norms, like a person carrying extra weight. It also helps me recognize my own worth. If I can appreciate the good in others, I must also be willing to extend that kindness to myself.

Writing has provided me with a sense of love that I never experienced with my ex-wife. It serves as a profound source of spiritual rejuvenation, akin to what Indiana Jones sought in Raiders of the Lost Ark. It reinforces the notion that every individual possesses inherent value—an unconditional worth that remains, regardless of past mistakes or fluctuating self-esteem.

I write because it’s through this process that I feel a connection to the divine. While some find God in communion, I find Him when I write or enjoy a soothing shower late at night after my children are asleep.

At this stage in my blog, you might wonder what my reflections on writing have to do with the overarching theme of this article. The answer is: everything.

Writing has been my only true emotional sanctuary. It’s through this platform that I’ve become a more attentive father. This practice has instilled in me humility, introspection, and compassion—qualities that have undeniably enhanced my parenting.

So tonight, I write for my own benefit. I need to remind myself that I am giving my all as a father—and doing quite well, at that. It’s essential for me to remember this; if I don’t, I risk being overly harsh on myself, questioning whether my best is truly sufficient.

While this self-critical instinct often drives me to be a better parent—since let's face it, neglectful parents don’t ponder such matters—I also use this space to hold myself accountable. I strive to acknowledge my feelings without projecting them onto others, to practice kindness toward myself, and to recognize my own beauty, especially when that’s the most challenging task.

Ultimately, I will continue to express myself through writing as a reminder that my emotions hold value. And so do yours.

The first video features Nancy Miller discussing the essentials for a writer's success. It offers valuable insights into the writing process and the mindset needed to thrive creatively.

The second video explores the phrase "A Saving Grace," delving into its various meanings and implications, enhancing our understanding of language and expression.