Chapter 1: Understanding Self-Hate

Experiencing self-hate can often feel overwhelming, yet it serves a purpose by signaling deeper issues that need attention.

One of the most significant lessons I've gained through therapy is the importance of acknowledging our feelings. This principle of radical acceptance can be both frustrating and liberating. It's frustrating because we often resist merely accepting our reality; we crave the ability to take control and reshape our circumstances to align with our desires. However, it can also be liberating to let go of the struggle and recognize that embracing our current situation can lead to a sense of peace. Redirecting our energy away from relentless change can sometimes bring about a more satisfying life experience.

In today's society, we are bombarded with the message to love ourselves. This self-love is touted as a prerequisite for achieving happiness, acceptance, and success—essentially, it's presented as the ultimate goal. But what does it mean when we can't muster that love for ourselves? Are we inherently flawed? Is there a way to alter our self-perception to present a facade of happiness while concealing our inner turmoil?

While I'm not a mental health professional, I believe that self-hatred, while painful, can be acknowledged and transformed. The term "hate" carries a heavy connotation, yet it's a sentiment many express when discussing their feelings of inadequacy. Instead of suppressing these emotions, I advocate for embracing them as valid experiences. By doing so, we can explore the underlying reasons for this self-loathing without judgment.

I perceive these feelings as signals indicating a need for personal growth. They might suggest that we need to improve, change our lifestyle, confront unresolved issues, or even a multitude of personal challenges unique to each individual.

For a significant period, I've grappled with dissatisfaction in my own life. It has taken me years to voice this discomfort and even longer to take steps toward change. As a child, I thrived on pushing boundaries, challenging norms, and embracing discomfort for the thrill of it. Yet, as an adult, I've become more complacent, trapped by my own limitations and hesitant to break free.

I have become the person my younger self would criticize. The curiosity and adventurous spirit I once possessed have diminished, leaving me to wonder why I constantly feel unfulfilled.

While my journey of self-discovery and improvement is ongoing and gradual, it is indeed a journey.

This reflection is not intended as psychological advice or a substitute for professional guidance. However, simply recognizing and admitting my feelings has empowered me to initiate change, albeit slowly.

The first video titled "How can I stop hating myself?" explores strategies and insights on overcoming self-hate and fostering self-acceptance.

Chapter 2: The Journey Forward

The second video, "It's NORMAL to hate yourself," delves into the commonality of self-hate and encourages viewers to acknowledge their feelings as part of the human experience.