Collect Reasons to Live Instead of Searching for Purpose
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Chapter 1: The Pressure of Purpose
The overwhelming quest to identify my purpose once felt like a heavy weight on my shoulders. I consumed countless books that suggested this was the key to happiness, which only heightened my anxiety about my direction in life. I envied those who appeared to have it all figured out. Life, as we know, is intricate, making the allure of a singular solution all the more tempting.
However, few discuss how precarious this mindset is. When you anchor your self-worth to one singular goal, the potential for collapse becomes significant if that goal falters. It's far healthier to support your self-esteem with multiple sources instead. Cultivating a diverse range of interests enhances resilience, allowing you to be more adaptable than if you were to focus all your energy on one pursuit.
The global fascination with the Japanese concept of Ikigai has surged dramatically in recent years, often misconstrued as the intersection of what you love, what you excel at, what the world needs, and what pays. Yet, this is a misunderstanding. Ikigai is fundamentally about having reasons to live—many of them, in fact! These reasons should evolve with time rather than remain static throughout your life. It’s about what brings you joy in the here and now.
It’s time to shift our focus from an elusive purpose to gathering reasons to embrace life.
Chapter 2: Redefining Contribution
When contemplating purpose, many automatically gravitate towards the notion of finding a fulfilling career. This perspective undervalues the invaluable contributions made by parents, caregivers, and volunteers. We must dismantle the belief that financial compensation is necessary for something to hold significance.
While it’s wonderful to love your job, it’s important to recognize that not everyone will experience the perfect workday consistently. Aspiring creators often romanticize the idea of going full-time; while I enjoy writing, if I could earn a living through conversation alone, I would choose that in a heartbeat. It’s amusing when others assert that writing is my purpose, as if they possess some insight into my inner thoughts. Truthfully, I found more joy in writing when it didn’t come with financial obligations.
Having spoken with numerous entrepreneurs, many of whom have amassed significant wealth, it’s common for them to express regret about not prioritizing their health during their younger years. While hard work can expedite your journey to success, it’s perplexing to see individuals wear their burnout as a badge of honor.
Japan coined the term Ikigai, but they also introduced the concept of Karoshi, or death from overwork. As you reflect on this article, keep this paradox in mind. Avoid becoming so fixated on your Ikigai that it ultimately harms you.
Chapter 3: The Value of Everyday Joy
In films, narratives build toward a climax where the hero triumphs, and everyone lives happily ever after. But what happens after the credits roll? Life is not a movie; it’s a series of ups and downs. Our journeys are shaped not by isolated milestones but by daily experiences. The pursuit of achievements can sometimes lead to a sense of emptiness, driving us to chase new goals in hopes of that elusive "Hollywood moment."
During my extensive karate training, the anticipated high point was earning my black belt or winning a medal. Yet, the moments I cherish most are the camaraderie and support shared among classmates. It was the enjoyment of the process that mattered more than the accolades.
When you find satisfaction in the journey itself, you can continually raise your goals without sacrificing your happiness.
Chapter 4: Discovering Your Reasons to Live
I won’t dictate what your reasons for living should be; we are all unique individuals. What invigorates me may bore you to tears. It’s essential to tune into your emotions and take note of what resonates with you.
During a period of low self-esteem, I once compiled a list of all the positive elements in my life and continued until my hand grew tired. If you feel your life lacks meaning, this exercise could remind you of the abundance you have to live for. I kept my list private, as it was a personal dialogue rather than an effort to project a positive image online.
Beyond careers, most people's reasons to live typically fall into two categories: relationships and hobbies.
Section 4.1: The Importance of Relationships
It’s disheartening to hear influencers tout the need for sacrifice in the pursuit of success. When I reach old age, I would prefer to be surrounded by loved ones, even if it means living modestly, rather than dwelling in a mansion alone.
Loneliness has become a significant public health concern, with overwhelming evidence of its detrimental effects. Many of the world's blue zones—regions where life expectancy is highest—boast strong community ties, yet many of us remain focused on individualistic goals.
For me, nothing lifts my spirits like a heartfelt hug from someone who cares or the laughter sparked by inside jokes shared with old friends. Although building my own business is challenging, I will always carve out time for friends and family.
For some, pets can hold as much significance as human relationships. To them, you are everything. Keep this in mind during moments of doubt!
Section 4.2: Finding Joy in Hobbies
I’ve been fortunate to cultivate various interests alongside my academic and professional pursuits. Throughout different phases of my life, activities like karate, dance, and yoga have served as weekly highlights. Add to that the adventures I’ve had, the incredible cuisine I’ve sampled, and the games I’ve enjoyed.
The specifics of your hobbies matter less than the joy they bring you. For me, many of my hobbies double as social opportunities, allowing me to forge friendships.
This past year, I dedicated time to soccer, dance, and squash weekly, but an injury forced me into physical therapy instead. While this transition was challenging, I have embraced the new goal of regaining my strength.
If I had tied my identity to dancing as my purpose, my mental health would have struggled considerably during my injury recovery.
Chapter 5: Embracing the Little Things
There’s a risk you might still be thinking too grandly about your reasons for living, so I want to stress this point: Your reasons can be as small as they are meaningful.
Consider the various dimensions of your life—family, friends, hobbies, and career. If someone means a lot to you, reflect on how they enrich your life. For instance, my baby nephew loves tossing items from his high chair and pretending innocence. Although I know I shouldn’t encourage him, it never fails to make me laugh.
Don’t feel confined to neatly categorized lists; often, the quirkiest reasons evoke the strongest feelings. Your list should celebrate the oddities that make us human.
Think of that cozy moment on your sofa after a long day, the catchy tune stuck in your head, or the aroma of your favorite dish. Your life holds meaning and can be filled with joy, regardless of whether you have pinpointed a singular purpose.
I hope this reflection brought a smile to your face.