Chapter 1: The Nature of Love

What if love exists solely in our imagination? What if it’s just an abstract notion? Imagine that love embodies God, and God reflects love, intertwining our identities with love itself. But what if this connection leads to feelings of hopelessness instead?

Consider the possibility that love is confined to a particular mindset, one that we may struggle to access due to our circumstances. Could it be that love is merely a misunderstanding, leaving us all in a state of delusion? Most importantly, what if we lack the ability to truly love?

Sometimes I find myself questioning my self-love. I often go out of my way to help others, even those I don’t believe deserve my affection, while neglecting my own needs. To clarify, I'm not someone who seeks to please others; rather, I see it as an act of kindness. I don’t expect rewards for my good deeds, nor do I anticipate anything in return.

I consider myself self-reliant. I believe that as long as I continue to do what I can, I have my entire life to prioritize self-love. So why not put others first? Especially if someone is in need and I can provide support, does that mean I don’t love myself? I honestly question this. It leads me to my fundamental life philosophy: why can't we all be self-sufficient?

When you take care of yourself, you show love to others by allowing them to focus on their own self-care as well. It’s straightforward logic.

Now, let’s talk to the married individuals out there. Are you genuinely in love with your partner, or are you merely tolerating them—or perhaps a mix of both? I really want to know.

Do you wake up each morning smiling for no reason with your spouse beside you?

How do you forgive them repeatedly for their mistakes, especially when they should know what irritates you?

How do you overlook those annoying habits that once seemed endearing without letting them affect your commitment?

After a tiring day at work, do you still listen patiently to their day’s frustrations?

Do you envision spending your life together, or just enjoying the pleasant moments that come your way?

Are you prepared to care for them through life-altering events, no matter their health condition?

Does their dependency ever feel overwhelming to the point where you question your commitment?

Is your love a steadfast knowledge, or is it a conscious choice you make each day?

As an overthinker, I’ve planned my life meticulously, and it takes deliberate effort to make these daily choices. It’s not impossible to be intentional; it’s just not automatic. Understanding the future through consistent actions is crucial for me, even though I deeply believe in fate—a conflict worth discussing another time.

In essence, for love to flourish, it must be intentional. But how can one ascertain their capacity to love?

Dear Married People,

Kudos to you.

Wishing you continued strength and growth.

Thank you for your engagement.

Remember: it gets better. 😊

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